I’m blown away by the sheer industry and skill that goes into making a bird’s nest. And unlike we humans, birds do it all over again season after season.
Recently a good friend returned from a stint living and working overseas. She remains the same dear friend who had left some five years before … but also changed in subtle ways. Like a caterpillar she has morphed into a butterfly, a fact made more apparent by her absence.
We’ve been helping her settle into a new abode. Of course fundamental to any new home, is a garden. In her case, the garden will be in pots on an apartment terrace.
So when I found this beautiful nest blown out of its tree by the wind, I thought of her. Can you see the connection here?
My friend is nesting.
She will hatch a new life and a new identity in the space she is making her own.
We have all been a part of the process; lending a hand to move boxes, to give advice on colours for the repaint or the styling of her apartment, and last but not least, helping her create her garden. I have enjoyed sharing ideas and plant cuttings and she has enjoyed receiving them. And because of this, like a bird collecting nesting materials, she has woven a little bit of each of us into her new nest.
Another dear friend is busy clearing her nest. Her circumstances have changed warranting a sweeping away of the old to create the new; one that more properly reflects her essence and interests. I think the buzzword is ‘de-cluttering’. I see the effects of her physical de-cluttering reflected in her emotional life. A phenomenon I can relate to.
We all need to reassess and re-evaluate our nests from time to time. When they get fouled with obsolete ‘stuff’, whether plants, household things, or even old attitudes, it’s bad for the soul. How can you expect to fly weighed down by all that baggage?
Don’t believe the myth about empty nests either. There is no such thing while anyone lives there. Our nests aren’t built just for the young. Human nests continue to nurture us into old age.
Take a metaphorical stick out of the next bird’s nest you see to improve your own. Take time to clean it out and re-feather it. It will give you wings.
The bird a nest, the spider a web, [wo]man friendship.