I need reminding.
Nothing is forever.
This is never more evident than in my garden – a deep repository for life’s important lessons. It takes a gardener like me time to learn the lessons offered. Is that why I keep being presented with the same lesson over and over? Because it takes ‘forever’ to learn?
The grasshoppers have been ravaging my plants. Everywhere I look there are half consumed leaves.
The hungry little critters ate the blossoms on my lemon tree too, diminishing hope of a good crop of lemons next season. If that’s not discouraging enough, some of my precious Hippeastrum Papillio bulbs have succumbed to the soggy conditions. Small losses, small disappointments in the greater scheme of things, but frustrating nevertheless.
Having a garden means coping with constant change. Some good and some less so. It’s funny how things appear just when you need them though.
Inspiration is no different.
This morning, a dear friend shared a quote with our circle, intending to lift the spirits of one among us who is coping with great change in her life. But like a ripple in a pond, the effects flowed on past her to all of us. As a consequence, I have resolved to see things differently.
The quote took me back to things I have lost in my life – important things – things I have grieved deeply for. I realised while I was focusing on all I had lost, I was failing to see the things I’ve gained. For although these ‘lost’ things are no longer mine, therefore temporary, I have experienced them, enjoyed them, grown through them, while they were mine. So it’s not the lost things themselves, the temporary things, but rather what comes from them. Those are the things to keep – those are the ‘forever’ things.
The shared quote:
Like a sandcastle, all is temporary
Build it, tend it, enjoy it
And when the time comes, let it go.
Jack Kornfield.
And another from a favourite poet of mine
Sunlight fell upon the wall; the wall received a borrowed splendour. Why set your heart on a piece of earth, O simple one? Seek out the source which shines forever. Rumi
Having been a gardener with a large garden until nine years ago I appreciate your garden losses. They are hard ! I hope your garden recovers soon.
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Thank you. Sometimes I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong but It’s lovely to know others have similar experiences.
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we have lived in this house for 41 years and we need to declutter. I am the worst hoarder and need to let things go. Your quote has strengthened my decision to let some stuff go. Indeed I will climb out of bed and clear a draw. Thanks for the prompt. The ripple goes on around the world
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Oh Brenda, I empathise. Clutter is a difficult one. But glad I have inspired you.
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It is so easy to forget that a closing door means we must focus on an looking for an opening somewhere else. The closing door takes all our attention, and prevents us seeing the path outwards. Letting go of “stuff” means letting go of memories, but we can still remember them in our minds A lovely post and comments, Robyn.
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It is some comfort to have such a beautiful picture of a ‘lost’ bulb.
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Oh, yes. And do you know I am anxiously waiting to see what happens because I think some smaller bulbs are showing signs of life.
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Beautiful post. We all need reminding nothing is forever.
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I think we all know this on an intellectual level, but as you say, we need reminding so as to be grateful for what we have now or have had in the past.
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Exactly
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Hi Robyn. Lots to think about here. One idea that came to mind is a simple “on the other hand”; i.e, some think that real happiness lies in remembering experiences. Wordsworth, for example, (in his poem “Intimations of Immorality”):
“Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendor in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind;
In the primal sympathy
Which having been must ever be…”
More concretely, in “Daffodils” he said he liked visions of flowers better than the flowers themselves. At home, he lay on his couch and pictured what he saw on a walk, and wrote
“Then my heart with pleasure fills
And dances with the daffodils.”
But that’s poetry. Jack Kornfeld is talking about real life, I’m sure. Rumi too. You and they make a point worth taking seriously in the daily round of change and loss. Nice post.
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Albert, I think the romantic in me remembers things I have enjoyed with an amplified sense of that enjoyment. The Wordsworth poems you quote are particular favourites of mine – the first verse because it so beautifully expresses the essence of my post, and the second because my father so often quoted that verse and over the years it has revealed his heart to me. He would begin ‘I wandered lonely as a cloud …’ and we’d all stop to listen and wonder at the faraway look on his face. Thank you for the memories.
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Wow, powerful and beautiful words, Robyn. Thanks for the reminder. And that Papillio! What a bloom!!
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Good news Pam. There are signs of life around the soggy main bulb. I think babies are afoot! Thanks for your kind words.
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Beautiful babies, no doubt!
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Enjoyment is a moment treasured while it’s there.
A lovely post Robyn.
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So true Gail. Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad you found something to like.
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Thank you for sharing the ripple with us Robyn. There is so much here to unpack and ponder on. Both quotes are lovely and I’m especially taken with the Rumi quote.
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Thanks Steph. Rumi was very productive in his life time as a poet and sage and is now gaining the following he always deserved.
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You’re welcome. I don’t know much about him but have seen a number of his quotes. This will prompt me to learn more about him. Thank you!
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Lovely quotes. I didn’t know that grasshoppers nibbled.
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Thank you for visiting Ali. Grasshoppers would more correctly be described as devourers than nibblers I think.
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You are so wise, Robyn, and this is a beautiful post. Thank you for the reminder.
I’m sorry about the grasshoppers but I’m glad to learn there still are some somewhere in the world. Monsanto has pretty much taken them all out here, along with all the other critters I once enjoyed so much.
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Such kind words Melissa. I lament the grasshoppers but you make me realise I’d lament their absence even more. Thanks for taking time to visit. 🙏
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Than you.
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